LOL – Only read this if you know me really well…otherwise you might be needlessly annoyed

A couple of weeks ago my soul sister and I had just finished a beautiful hike in the mountains.  We decided to go back to her house a grab a HOT cup of tea.

As we sipped from our mugs my friend was enthusiastically showing me the new “super sonic” bird feeder her children had given her for Christmas.  She explained with much excitement how this glass and steel contraption was so much better for the birds in terms of keeping them safe from other animals that might like to access the feeder (like bears).  Did I mention she backs on to a greenbelt?

Having two cats myself, and knowing that my friend has a couple of rent-a-cats that come by often for meals and love I asked:  “What do the cats  think of the bird feeder?”

“Oh, we haven’t seen much of them lately – so I don’t know.”  A few minutes later there was a neighborhood cat, named Java, at the glass balcony door eyeing up the bird feeder.

My friend first spoke eloquently about how beautiful Java was (he is a gorgeous and big cat) and then opened the door and tried to “shoo” Java away.  Have you ever tried to “shoo” a cat?  It doesn’t work…especially when there is bird feeder and LOTS of little birds flying above its head.  But after several scoldings Java seemed to disappear.

With the birds now safe we sat back down on the couch and resumed our conversation.  My friend remarked on how great it was to have this bird feeder as there now were all these new birds she’d “never seen before” coming by.  In the exact moment those words left her mouth, one of these unusual birds swooped through the sky towards the feeder and WHAMO Java pounced out of nowhere and caught the bird mid-air in his jaws and they both disappeared.

“Well,” I said. “I guess that’s one bird we’ve never seen before and one we’ll never see again.”

Monday Morning Rise and Shine 01.23.12

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January 23, 2012 – Issue #41

Balance Thinking and Action You become more personally powerful when you balance your external action with internal reflection and contemplation. Action without thought and replenishment (which is far, far more common in corporate life and western culture) leads to:

  • Frenzied activity
  • Controlling efforts to impose your own will
  • Pay later decisions (ones that require a great deal of rework, hidden costs, etc.)
  • And ultimately…
    • Frantic exhaustion
    • Burnout
    • Sense that our souls are fragmented

When you take a more balanced approach, you achieve greater capacity that enables:

  • Your best decisions
  • Growth
  • Resilience to handle challenges and setbacks

This Week’s Action: Assess how well you balance your actions with reflection.

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2012. All rights reserved.

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January 16, 2012 – Issue #40

The Luxury of Capacity Time management is overrated. The real secret to dealing with higher workloads and demands on your time is to focus on increasing your capacity. You have high capacity when you have the inner reserves required to enable you to act in the most effective manner. See visual below.

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Rethink time management as self-management. Lack of time can be a barrier but it is only a symptom, not the cause.

This Week’s Action: Pay attention to your stress level and assess if you have the inner reserves to adequately deal with the challenges that your typical day brings you.

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January 2, 2012 – Issue #38

Success and Significance in 2012 If you want to experience greater success in all aspects of your life in 2012, forget about making New Year’s resolutions. They don’t work, but what does work is creating your Success and Significance Plan.

Your 2012 Success and Significance Plan needs to contain:

  • Specific, measureable goals
  • Actions to enable you to achieve goals
  • Contingencies for when the actions do not work as intended
  • Support and encouragement

Accountability is the key differentiator between aspirations and accomplishments. Assemble your own personal boot camp. Join a mastermind group. Get a career leadership coach.

Happy New Year! May you have all the courage, determination and will to make 2012 the year you achieve a spectacularly meaningful career and stellar results in all areas of your life.

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2012. All rights reserved.

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December 19, 2011 – Issue #37

Look Inward to Define Success Success can simply be defined as: achieving what is most important to you.

There is only one person who can determine if you are successful and that is you. True success can never be defined by using someone else’s form of measurement. Therefore, if you want greater success in 2012, you have to be clear on what you want. Ask yourself what success looks like in terms of:

  • Career
  • Family/Loved Ones
  • Finances
  • Personal growth

Think about which aspects of your life you feel the most and least successful in. And consider what you are going to stop, start and continue doing in 2012 to focus on what’s working and let go of what is not.

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2011. All rights reserved.

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October 17, 2011 – Issue #29

Do you work to live or live to work? You may feel that you have no time for anything but work given the reality of unmanageable demands on our time and capacity. The often-quoted solution to this difficult problem is to find more “balance,” which often feels more elusive than practical.

Instead of balance, seek harmony. Don’t look at your life in silos. Seek integration of your work and personal life. Align what you do with what you love and bring who you love to what you do. When you do that, you can then increase your capacity and enjoy your whole life.

Survey Says Contribute to the conversation.

Which of the following best practices for career/life harmony would you most readily adopt and derive value from? Changing my career to one that better leverages my strengths; releasing my guilt when I am not working when I am enjoying myself or not spending time with my loved ones when I am working; being more intentional about including planning and time for restorative activities like eating well, resting, exercise and relationships into my daily activities (vs. just jumping into tasks); seeking ways to incorporate family time into my work assignments (e.g., bringing loved ones on business trips) and setting aside time for work during my family time (e.g., waking up early to handle work related emergencies).

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2011. All rights reserved.

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RisingStar2 July 25, 2011 – Issue #17

Have Your Dessert First We have come to accept the notion that we must save the best for last. We are conditioned to think that we must get all our work done before we can give ourselves permission to relax or have a good time. It is as if relaxing has become the reward for hard work.

Relaxing often seems unavailable to us until…until we’ve got it all done. But the unfortunate truth is the “inbox of life” is never empty and “everything else” is never done. There is no law that says we have to wait until we’ve earned the right to relax.

Switch it up. Try relaxing just because you can. Experience a replenishing break from your work routine.

Survey Says Contribute to the conversation.

Last week we asked – Why do we value relaxation less than we value productivity: we are addicted to accomplishing tasks; we perceive ourselves as lazy if we are not producing results; we attach our self-worth to getting things done; we believe that downtime is a reward for a job well done?

The majority of you responded “we attach our self-worth to getting things done” at 57% (next highest rated option was “we believe that downtime is a reward for a job well done” at 25%.)

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2011. All rights reserved.

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RisingStar2 July 11, 2011 – Issue #15

Bring Fun to Work Does the familiar statement “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” resonate with you? The current economic environment has created cultures of overwork, which in turn makes for exceptionally serious work environments. Lack of fun and laughter in the workplace not only makes employees less engaged, it inhibits the development of strong, functional, trusting teams.

Making time to play and have fun takes commitment. Take action today to bring back the fun, relational element of work. Ask colleagues out to socialize. Organize group potluck lunches. Take time in team meetings to interact and enjoy one another.

Survey Says Contribute to the conversation.

Last week we asked you – Why is it hard to tap into our playful spirits and create connection with those around us through fun: worries of the world and our obligations; feels immature and not responsible; simply no time…too much to get done in a short amount of time; it is not important or relevant to success?

Overwhelmingly the response was “lack of time” at 63% (next highest rated option was worries of the world and obligations at 17%.)

We could give you a simple solution to this dilemma – but we didn’t. To find out more click here.

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2011. All rights reserved.

Survey Says: No Time for Fun

This week we asked “Why is it hard to tap into our playful spirits and create connection with those around us through fun?” Overwhelmingly the response was “lack of time” at 63% (next highest rated option was worries of the world and obligations at 17%.)

We could give you a simple solution to this dilemma – you simply need to prioritize rest and relaxation. Put it on the calendar as you would any other essential activity. And if we did give you that simplistic advice, it would minimize your reality. We don’t have as much available time as we had in the past. Workloads are becoming unmanageable. What it takes to compete in the marketplace is intense.

So, instead of telling you to slow down or work less (though you can incorporate this strategy, if desired), we want to encourage you to relearn a key trait that children innately possess that enables them to have fun wherever they are. We want you to practice being  present. If you have to, take moments in your day when you leave your virtual and ever-present office that is contained in your iPad or phone behind and engage yourself fully in your life. Walk your dog, play with your kids, take in that sunset, hold your loved one’s hand.

Do what you can to create a barrier when you stop work so that you can become absolutely alive to what is in your life. The more present you are to them, the more likely your ordinary moments can be transformed into the fun and memorable.

You may not get more time…but your time might get better.

Monday Morning Rise and Shine 07.04.11

RisingStar2 July 4, 2011 – Issue #14

Remember to Play When did you last set aside time to play? When did you last have a laugh-till-your-cheeks-hurt, no-holds-barred good time?

It is vital to create space for play. Playing restores and re-energizes you. It makes you feel good physically. Play evens out our emotional lives by creating opportunities for us to be not so serious all the time. We just have to look at children to be reminded of the magical powers of play.

Think of how that used to feel…playing for the fun of it, for pure pleasure. Fun is important for several reasons. Laughter is good for the soul. And having fun together is what creates community. As humans, we are not solitary beings. We need relationships to thrive – both on the job and off.

Survey Says Contribute to the conversation.

Answer this week’s poll here – Why is it hard to tap into our playful spirits and create connection with those around us through fun: worries of the world and our obligations; feels immature and not responsible; simply no time…too much to get done in a short amount of time; it is not important or relevant to success?

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