Exercise Your Superpower

We are often so busy doing all the things that must be accomplished in a day that the concept of being is neglected. Often sheer necessity, the need to meet all our obligations, drives us to focus only on what has to be done—getting a promotion, completing a report, having a tough conversation with an employee. But even our best plans can collapse when we concentrate only on what has to be completed. We must also consider who we really are, and want to become, to make changes and bring more power into our lives.

Your superpower is your brightly shining essence of self, your true being, encapsulated in your natural talents, true gifts and special traits. Many of us find it difficult to name our superpower, because we’ve been programmed to focus on what we are not versus who we are. We direct our energy toward “fixing” the weaker parts of ourselves rather than celebrating and strengthening our brilliance. But the leaders I know who have success on their terms play to their strengths. They do not shore up weakness; instead, they build within their power alley. Success and Significance Question

If you were a superhero, what would your superpower be? The workplace and the marketplace reward mastery, not mediocrity. In what areas of your leadership and life are you a true master?

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February 6, 2012 – Issue #43

Be purposeful about disengaging from physical activity AND mental activity. Take time away from the running around AND all the pressures that occupy and stress out your brain.

Unplug from your smartphone, Facebook page and addiction to being connected and busy all the time. Go to bed earlier, take a day off each week for rest and rejuvenation.

Take your vacation days. And then watch as you crack the code on working smarter…not harder.

This Week’s Action: Ask yourself: Do I value my sense of worth based on how busy I am? What am I afraid of if I slow myself down?

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2012. All rights reserved.

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January 30, 2012 – Issue #42

ROI of Silence and Solitude

The soul is like a wild animal – tough, resilient, resourceful, savvy, self-sufficient. It knows how to survive in hard places. But it is also shy. Just like a wild animal, it seeks safety in the dense underbrush. If we want to see a wild animal, we know that the last thing we should do is go crashing through the woods yelling, for it to come out. But if we walk quietly in the woods, sit patiently by the base of the tree and fade into our surroundings, the wild animal we seek might put in an appearance. Parker Palmer, A Hidden Wholeness

The quickest way to build your capacity is to add silence and solitude to your list of daily practices. Taking time alone to reflect, think, plan and just be will do far more for you than keeping yourself busy and inundated with the noise and constant stimulations that compete for our attention. The benefits that you will receive will far outweigh your guilt for not being more productive or your discomfort with quiet. You will gain:

  • Access to your inner creativity
  • Clarity
  • Opportunities to tap into insights that go beyond typical thinking processes

This Week’s Action: Pick a time and location that feels comfortable and safe from distractions and disruptions and simply do nothing. Try it for five minutes and see what happens.

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LOL – Only read this if you know me really well…otherwise you might be needlessly annoyed

A couple of weeks ago my soul sister and I had just finished a beautiful hike in the mountains.  We decided to go back to her house a grab a HOT cup of tea.

As we sipped from our mugs my friend was enthusiastically showing me the new “super sonic” bird feeder her children had given her for Christmas.  She explained with much excitement how this glass and steel contraption was so much better for the birds in terms of keeping them safe from other animals that might like to access the feeder (like bears).  Did I mention she backs on to a greenbelt?

Having two cats myself, and knowing that my friend has a couple of rent-a-cats that come by often for meals and love I asked:  “What do the cats  think of the bird feeder?”

“Oh, we haven’t seen much of them lately – so I don’t know.”  A few minutes later there was a neighborhood cat, named Java, at the glass balcony door eyeing up the bird feeder.

My friend first spoke eloquently about how beautiful Java was (he is a gorgeous and big cat) and then opened the door and tried to “shoo” Java away.  Have you ever tried to “shoo” a cat?  It doesn’t work…especially when there is bird feeder and LOTS of little birds flying above its head.  But after several scoldings Java seemed to disappear.

With the birds now safe we sat back down on the couch and resumed our conversation.  My friend remarked on how great it was to have this bird feeder as there now were all these new birds she’d “never seen before” coming by.  In the exact moment those words left her mouth, one of these unusual birds swooped through the sky towards the feeder and WHAMO Java pounced out of nowhere and caught the bird mid-air in his jaws and they both disappeared.

“Well,” I said. “I guess that’s one bird we’ve never seen before and one we’ll never see again.”

Career and Leadership Success

Last week I had the honor of participating in Peter Reek’s Smart & Savvy Associates fantastic event for those wishing to build their marketing careers.

The event was masterfully choreographed with words of wisdom from 12 seasoned professionals sharing career planning “hindsights” interspersed with a dance competition, the Price is Right and Deal or No Deal.  The truly magnificent part of the evening was that each speaker had only 5-minutes (think ‘petcha kucha’ style) to share their insights (and, yes, most kept to the clock).

I was last up of the 12 and shared my “Seven Steps to Career and Leadership Success.”

I shared not only my personal experience, but more importantly, I shared the collective wisdom and hindsights of the hundreds of individuals I’ve coached to career and leadership success over the past dozen years.

Here’s a brief summary of what I said.  I decided to create a mnemonic to make the steps easy to remember. A video of the event is coming soon.  But until then, this will have to suffice.

Set a vision and goals:  The most successful folks I know set a vision (1 or 5 years out) for what is possible for their leadership and life.  They take a holistic view and determine the destination they aim to reach.  Then they put that vision up on the shelf and trust in it and themselves. Next they take an action everyday (large or small) that moves them in the right direction.

Understand self-esteem CPR:  Self-confidence is knowing the you have the skills to do something well.  Self-esteem is knowing your worth even if you are doing nothing.  Lack of self-esteem can stunt your career; no matter how talented you are.  You know you have strong self-esteem when you stay on an even keel no matter how great the wins or losses.  When you have strong belief in your worth regardless of market conditions you can practice Self-Esteem CPR:  you make Choices that move you toward your vision; you make Positivity a priority (your attitude, people and environments that surround you); and, you take measured Risks because you feel good in your own skin.

Create value security:  Job and career security has gone the way of the Brontosaurus.  It is extinct.  Yesterday’s world was about being employed.  You put in the hours and they gave you a gold watch.  Today’s world is about being employable.  You are measured on the value you bring and the results you deliver.  The more value you create, the more you make your performance shine, the more career options become available to you.

Contribute to others:  Don’t give to get.  Give to give.  Endeavor to make a meaningful impact on others.  Further this philosophy in your networking, volunteerism and day-to-day interactions.

Exercise your superpower:  The workplace rewards mastery not mediocrity.  The marketplace rewards mastery not mediocrity.  The leaders I know who have success on their terms play to their strengths.  They do not shore up weakness; and, instead build within their power alley.  In other words, if you were a superhero what would your superpower be?

Synergize your career and life:  Do not sacrifice your life for your career. Avoid burnout.  In our crazy busy world there is no such thing as balance and forget trying to achieve it.  Strive for harmony between your roles and responsibilities. In doing so, you will stop worrying about whether you are doing the right things and focus on doing the right things the right way.

Seek success not perfection: Perfection is a career killer.  When you focus on everything being a 100% right you get stuck.  You hold on too tightly and do not delegate or let things go.  You try to control everything and everyone. You miss opportunities to grow and take risks.

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January 23, 2012 – Issue #41

Balance Thinking and Action You become more personally powerful when you balance your external action with internal reflection and contemplation. Action without thought and replenishment (which is far, far more common in corporate life and western culture) leads to:

  • Frenzied activity
  • Controlling efforts to impose your own will
  • Pay later decisions (ones that require a great deal of rework, hidden costs, etc.)
  • And ultimately…
    • Frantic exhaustion
    • Burnout
    • Sense that our souls are fragmented

When you take a more balanced approach, you achieve greater capacity that enables:

  • Your best decisions
  • Growth
  • Resilience to handle challenges and setbacks

This Week’s Action: Assess how well you balance your actions with reflection.

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2012. All rights reserved.

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January 16, 2012 – Issue #40

The Luxury of Capacity Time management is overrated. The real secret to dealing with higher workloads and demands on your time is to focus on increasing your capacity. You have high capacity when you have the inner reserves required to enable you to act in the most effective manner. See visual below.

capacity

Rethink time management as self-management. Lack of time can be a barrier but it is only a symptom, not the cause.

This Week’s Action: Pay attention to your stress level and assess if you have the inner reserves to adequately deal with the challenges that your typical day brings you.

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January 9, 2012 – Issue #39

Are You Successful? If you believe that achieving success means more than how much money you make, you need to expand the indicators you use to track, measure and evaluate it. Consider adding:

  1. Purpose – to what degree am I living in alignment with my values, talents and passion?
  2. Presence – to what degree am I able to be fully alive and connected to whatever I am doing, whoever I am with?
  3. Peace – to what degree do I have a sense of inner contentment?
  4. Personal power – to what degree is my sense of self derived internally (vs. externally)?

This Week’s Action: Add these measures to your 2012 Success and Significance Plan and see how much value you want to (and do) gain and give this year.

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January 2, 2012 – Issue #38

Success and Significance in 2012 If you want to experience greater success in all aspects of your life in 2012, forget about making New Year’s resolutions. They don’t work, but what does work is creating your Success and Significance Plan.

Your 2012 Success and Significance Plan needs to contain:

  • Specific, measureable goals
  • Actions to enable you to achieve goals
  • Contingencies for when the actions do not work as intended
  • Support and encouragement

Accountability is the key differentiator between aspirations and accomplishments. Assemble your own personal boot camp. Join a mastermind group. Get a career leadership coach.

Happy New Year! May you have all the courage, determination and will to make 2012 the year you achieve a spectacularly meaningful career and stellar results in all areas of your life.

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December 19, 2011 – Issue #37

Look Inward to Define Success Success can simply be defined as: achieving what is most important to you.

There is only one person who can determine if you are successful and that is you. True success can never be defined by using someone else’s form of measurement. Therefore, if you want greater success in 2012, you have to be clear on what you want. Ask yourself what success looks like in terms of:

  • Career
  • Family/Loved Ones
  • Finances
  • Personal growth

Think about which aspects of your life you feel the most and least successful in. And consider what you are going to stop, start and continue doing in 2012 to focus on what’s working and let go of what is not.

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© Betsy Jordyn and Lisa Martin 2011. All rights reserved.